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This book is about the misconception of love, betrayal and triumph.  It’s for anyone who has gone through struggle after struggle trying to maintain a relationship only to realize that they have to reflect and evaluate what is wrong on the inside.  You have to ask yourself, Why do I keep making the same mistakes?  Why is it that I can’t maintain a solid relationship?  Why can’t I find true love? Why do I get hurt time after time? What can I do to fix this? What am I doing to deserve this?

Sounds familiar?  Well it’s time we look inward.  It’s time we evaluate what we’re dong wrong so we can finally get it right.

While reading this book, you will feel the author’s pain as she continuously looks for  the fairy tale relationship only to discover that there is no fairy tale relationship.  You’ll see through her painful ordeal that sometimes you have to get through the bad relationships before you are finally able to maintain a good relationship.  The author shares her story with the hopes of enabling her readers to become empowered to evaluate themselves, ask God for guidance, love on themselves and watch real love unfold. You will come to the realization that it’s not too late to get it right and live your life to the fullest.

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Book Reviews/The Little Girl Inside

Tonya, I finished your very well-written book. Oh my goodness, you’ve been through so much. You are such a strong person! It’s so wonderful that you’ve written it; the message is stonyaBookStando important, especially to young women. I’m so glad I had the opportunity to read it. – Judy, Maryland

I LOVED LOVED LOVED your book. You are such a strong women and I know this book will bless people all around the world. It blessed me every women has that little girl inside. I believe God is using you as a vessel to reach many women. – Tanya, Maryland

This just goes to show the old saying of you can’t judge a book by its covers!! When I first met you, all I could see was the epitome of class and success. Which is great, because it does not look like you ever had any hard times in your life…lol…. I’m sure the struggles you been through made you stronger, especially nurturing your children who have also achieved successful accomplishments. This should encourage a lot of young/older women, that no matter what you have been through, don’t give up just keep on going, keep shining. I applaud your accomplishments. I think the little girl in all of us are just looking to belong to someone for love and security. I hope you do some public speaking on your book, this really is a mentoring topic, especially for young girls. – Anonymous

This is creative, innovative, and important storytelling for all women.  I can’t wait for the next book. – Sandra, Maryland

Hey ready your book…  Loveeeee it!  thumbs a snap and a circle, on chapter 13 🙂

Yes!  Your book is so refreshing and realistic. It describes me and how I’ve dated men.  It’s funny,  sassy and classy.  A great read.  -Annette, Maryland

This book is a must-read for all adolescent girls and women. It is a treasure throve of honesty and encouragement. Tonya’s heart-breaking honesty and sincerity comes out in every word that she writes in the book. Get ready to be amazed and learn a lot of lessons.What woman hasn’t felt like Tonya has? I know her book speaks to me and I can now see how I made some of my key mistakes own life at key junctures. Yes, when you only listen to that little girl inside, she could lead you through pastures unknown, and most of them are wrong sadly. Perhaps this is because that little girl inside us is over zealous and hopeful. She doesn’t have a care in the world. She can’t think rationally and is completely enthralled by life. This is what makes her great, but when it comes to choosing the right spouse it could set women up for a life of misery and heartache.

Tonya knows hardship and she knows how to be hurt over and over again. She has been in several painful and futile relationships. But she learned so much about herself through this difficult process. I wish that things would be easier for women. But women are naturally intuitive creatures who rely on that inner voice which can be quite immature and hopeful. The trick is to balance that inner voice with the more mature voice that we experience. But it takes a lot of heartache before we can do that consistently, as Tonya shows in her very insightful and honest book!

Thank you Tonya for such a GREAT book! You have inspired me and showed me that I could learn from my pat mistakes and create the life that I deserve without abusive people in my life. We all deserve to have a happy life. – Irene


Official Review: The Little Girl Inside Owning My Role in…
Post Number:#1 by geoffrey ngoima » 18 Oct 2017, 19:06
[Following is an official review of “The Little Girl Inside Owning My Role in My Own Pain” by Tonya Barbee.]

4 out of 4 stars

Review by geoffrey ngoima

The Little Girl Inside: Owning My Role in My Own Pain by Tonya Barbee is a Non-fiction book published by Jabez Publishing House on April 1, 2015. Tonya uses an objective first-person narration to share her hard-earned lessons with the readers. The 109 Standard Pages (250 words per page) of this book hold precious insights from the writer’s unforgettable experiences. It is a story of hope amidst pain, triumph over self-delusion, and discovery of self in God.

When Tonya Barbee was asked what the hardest part of writing the book was in an interview, she said,
When I edited the book, I cried. I cried each time and I didn’t like editing it for that reason. It hurt me to know that I had been so manipulated and it hurt to see it in writing.

Any person who has ever written a personal and painful experience can relate to what she expresses. She talks about wishful thinking that is ever-present in the naïve little persons in all of us and cautions us against letting them get the upper hand in our relationships. She tells us to listen to the probing of God who is always trying to speak to us all the time.

She speaks about the intricacies of relationships as the story of her four failed marriages comes to life. She tackles issues of romantic love versus real love, and romantic movies and novels versus the hope and faith in a marriage. She shows us how to truly live truthfully and shun all the lies and deceptions of the world.

I have a feeling this book has already given hundreds of people the strength to fight for the obvious but deeply hidden truths that cripple us when taken from us. This book inspired me to look at relationships in a different light and think of them in a way that is renewing and godly.

The writing style used in the book is simple and very engaging. The writer uses stimulating and inventive avenues to share her invaluable teachings. It touched my heart to see give her best through a charming and a conversational tone as she expounded on characters situations that distressed her for years. The writing is well spaced and sentences evenly distributed on paragraphs to allow effortless reading.

The characters in the book are well fleshed out. The writer talks about various people that have shaped her life for better and worse. She depicts scenes and the characters therein humorously as Sir Knight, Sir Charming, the Playmate, Officer Wrong, and Sir Intellectual are painted vividly in the book.

The book has few editing issues. There are recurring typographical errors whereby the second “l’s” in words like “allowed”, “bill”, and “still” are replaced by gaps. These issues, however, did not detract from the efficacy of the book. I, therefore, give this book a rating of 4 out of 4 stars. I recommend it to all people in romantic relationships, especially young adults and anyone starting a new relationship. I also recommend it to people that have been through hard relationships or are currently in challenging relationships.

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“Joyous Word”

The Little Girl Inside By Author Tonya Barbee

Is the love or the misconception of such. It’s betrayal and triumph! It’s all three wrapped into onebook witten by an author whose relationship struggles helped shape & define her as the self-sufficient womean she is today.
If you have endured the difficult dynamics of a relationship and often wondered why the cycle kept repeating then this book is the perfect tool to help you evaluate yourself internally before giving your heart externally. You will find the much desired answer to your, “who’s, what’s when’s why’s and how’s of you past relationship issues.

The Little Girl Inside is a prolific story of triumph and discovery of inner peace. With each page, the reader will be captivated while the author uses the writing pen as a sowing tool – seaming a garment of praise, banner of victory, fabric of joy. With imaginative color, the book is a perfectly designed combination of patterns expressing the maturation of a woman.

A uniquely designed transparent jewel every woman should own in her jewelry box, The Little Girl Inside is a ministry resource tool for women in search for transparency in the human heart. The author shows us how to overcome the inner battle of doing the right thing the wrong way; going from finding love in all the wrong places to allowing loving to be revealed in the right time and in the right place.

A thought-provoking piece of art, this book will make us laugh, cry and reflect. This book cannot be read with a natural eye but one of discernment as the author reveals the hidden treasures buried in each page. With an open heart and mind, we will discover that there is even more revelation between the lines than what is crafted on the fabric of the page. When properly discerned, The Little Girl Inside is not just a book; it is a Master Peace – inside.


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Review from Irene

5 Stars


Good Read!

ByArlenaon October 9, 2017

Title: The Little Girl Inside: Owning My Role in My Own Pain

Author: Tonya Barbee

Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform

Reviewed By: Arlena Dean

Rating: Five


“The Little Girl Inside: Owning my Role in my Own Pain” by Tonya Barbee

My Thoughts….

What a interesting true story of how this author [Tonya] came out of this situation that so many a person can also be found in ..drifting and only wanted what we all want and that is to be truly loved. I found this story definitely being one that can help others in so many different ways. The novel explains it all so well in the twenty-eight chapters. I loved how the chapters were short and very much on point of what that subject was concerning that particular chapter.

So this is what was up when she listened to that little girl inside her as many of us do whether we want to admit it or not. Some of it may be good but for the most part of it all…it was bad especially when it came to her relationships. After four failed marriages would she finally get the answers she so desperately needed? Would she ever find someone like her father…which she adored and coming from a good family? What about her ‘Dreams and Hopes’ as only she wanted was to be loved as it seems like her father gave to her family. Well, as this story goes on we learn about Sir Knight, Sr Charming, the Playmate, Officer Wrong and now we either the Internet date [Sir Intellectual]. Now, that will be quite a story of how her best friend Naomi enter the picture and things will take a turn from that situation. From that situation she meets Gaines and I will truly say her life will never be the same with this person. At this point I kept wondering didn’t Gaines story sound weird but as you will see that little girl kept listening to just what she wanted to hear. I don’t want to spoil it and tell too much of the story but I hope that you will pick up this read and see just how this author will bring it out so well to the readers. Yes, this is a true story! Will Tonya [by the way as I write this review the her and she is named Tonya] ever come to the realization that only she will be able to stop this situation that is going on in her life. Yes, she has been hurt so much but Tonya now was on her fourth marriage and it was time to wake up and realize that that inner voice of that little girl should be saying that it was time to grow up, mature and only then would hope come.

What got me as I read this story was that several people around Tonya knew exactly what Sir Intellectual was all about…but one person told her…this was when the house they were to buy went down hill.

“I wanted you to have this house because I knew you would take care of it, give it love and restore it to the beautiful place that it once was….But if you think for one moment you will make it with that so-called man you call a husband, you have another thing coming. That man doesn’t love anyone except himself. He is a liar, a cheater, dishonest, and you can do much better than him.”

Did she listen? NO!

Thank God for the ‘Retreat’ from the church that seemed really to help Tonya get her life together.

In the end will Tonya be able to not ‘implement the perfect family in wanting to give her children the father figure that had always met so much to her? Will Tonya learn to just treasure what she already has? Will that little girl inside of Tonya have a ‘tranquil spirit and be content just where she is and seek God’s blessings for every move she makes?’

I loved the ending of this read..

“Never give up. Love yourself and embrace your mistakes and learn from them…Keep smiling and be grateful. It starts with you taking the first step to own up to your own pain. God will help you from there?’

This is definitely a novel I would recommend to all women. Indeed it would be a great help for all who listens to that little girl as she is speaking and definitely being able to learn from ones past own mistakes!

Thank you to the author for the gift of the read for my sharing my honest opinion of the read.